I was going through my thoughts on this post, and Tori Amos just came on my headphones with the magical words in her song “Winter“.


( the vid is old and might look lame to those under 30.. please don’t ridicule the lovely song )

Sometimes you think you can help someone “progress”. To simply guide the person along without any pressure, and grow at his/her own pace.

Then you realize you are trying to do it the way which works best for yourself. The person never wanted to change anyway. In the end you ask yourself, “Why bother?”

You did your part. You tried harder, in many other ways, and only got more frustration. Now that things are at its limit. In the end, you realize all you got out of it .. was a lesson.

Don’t forget it.

Now it’s time to decide with the lesson in mind.